The World of Second Chances

An Entity In The Dark

April 29, 2016

Career, Finance & Product

Lunch date with office mates.

We discussed about how the ExCom went through yesterday. Nothing juicy about it, the two of them said.

Then one of them remarked that I should also attend the ExCom with my boss.

I told him that I don’t attend ExComs because nobody requires me anyway and I put it that way—no big deal!

He said attending ExComs and being in the company of the top management is a privilege. I agreed to him. They are privileged and the antonym of it is, I am not privileged! LOL.

Honestly, I don’t see anything wrong if I become the “taong-bahay” every Thursday. In the same way that, I won’t complain if my boss tells me to go to the Head Office during ExComs. I don’t see myself as a very important person to protest. I don’t see myself as a somebody at work to be acting like a prima donna.

Being a manager is only a title but it does not define the totality of a person. I just want to help and to serve and be productive at work. I want to learn new things and excel at it. I have personal plans and I think I’m on the right track. 🙂
Go Where The Love Is

March 30, 2016

Poems & Stories

If I don’t communicate with you as often as before, don’t take it against you.

Don’t feel guilty if we’re drifting apart.

It’s just the natural life cycle of everything.

The beginning and the end.

But that disconnection has nothing to do with you.

It is just that I don’t want to force a connection when it’s no longer there.

I always go where the love is.

I know that you do not hate me.

I know that you feel sorry, too.

But we must accept that even the best of friendships fade.

It is as natural as the blooming of a flower then its withering.

Sometimes, it’s like the seasons– time will tell when closeness will happen again.

So we must not hold a grudge against each other.

If the hi’s and hello’s become as rare as the Halley’s comet.

Even nature has its own timing for everything.

So why take an effort to question everything.

Just walk away and go where the love is.

People are so obsessed about connections.

Be it a friend, a family, an office mate or a boss.

You can’t fake rapport when it isn’t there.

Just go on with your daily purpose and enjoy life.

Enjoy life in solitude like the way you do it in multitude.

Enjoy it with people who love you back.

Because always, people who love each other do not force happiness.

So go where the love is.
Breaking the FB Habit

March 29, 2016

Life & Love
I love to read and that includes reading stuff that my Facebook friends post on their wall. I felt like it was my social obligation to respond through every posts by “liking.” I was also the type who would share some not-so private personal happenings for the sake of opening myself to my friends.

I have three kinds of Facebook friends:
1. Those that are under restricted are restricted because I don’t wish to share my posts with them. They are those who offended me in the past and those who are on the habit of putting meaning to my every posts.
2. Those that are under acquaintance are classified that way so that they wouldn’t see my pictures who are reserved only for:
3. ……..my friends.
Facebook is too addicting because it feels so real-time. Like when I leave a comment to a friend’s post, somebody or that friend would react or reply.

Facebook has a lot of information to offer from a jet-setting friend to the current events to travel to the latest in fashion and so on and so forth.

Since Facebook is visual, it is entertaining and before you know it, it’s already 12:00 midnight. Talk about staying late online instead of going home late from a party!

Then two days ago, my Facebook app crashed so I was left with the mobile Facebook that was not as good as an eyecandy as the app. Then I realized that minus the visual factor, facebooking was just another lousy habit. I started reading historical articles again from the dalai lama in Tibet to the great Chinese dynasties in the past. Would you believe that since two days ago that I was inactive on Facebook, nobody really bothered to ask me what happened? It led me to conclude that we are too occupied with our own wall posts and something-to-share about that we failed to recognize the main purpose of this tool as a way to connect friends.

I did a mental calculation of the “friendship” that I would lose in case I discontinue my interest on Facebook and I found out that I only have a few of them that I’m frequently in contact with. Therefore, it wouldn’t hurt much to slip away from this online world.

I guess this is where maturity begins—maturity in terms of letting go of an
“addiction” to pursue greater things in life like being more productive and relevant.
Closure

March 22, 2016

Life & Love

I guess people see me as somebody trustworthy enough so they don’t feel awkward in sharing their life/love story. Somebody asked me about my opinion on closure. I told her that the moment two people fall apart, that’s closure; no more no less.

Why do we have to romanticize the end of any relationships? It must be the inner struggle to let go of the person and come to terms of accepting that things do really come to an end.

Why do we even bother to know the reasons behind the other person’s change of heart when it’s quite obvious that he/she just fell out of love? It must be the secret hope of winning back the other person and continue whatever is left of the relationship.

More often than not, we cling to the beautiful memories of the past because it feels good to be reminded that once in our life, we were happy with the other person and we wish that that moment will be duplicated. But we fail to recognize that people change, either for the better or for the worse and that we just need to accept if the other person is no longer into us.

Closure is like the ending of a chapter in a book, keeping it in a year and then reading it again to find out that you have a different interpretation of the paragraphs. With another year of closing it and leaving it as is, you become more mature and see the broader scenario instead of confining to what you initially thought the plot is all about. Then comes another year of leaving it as is and then re-reading it until you fully understand that there are paragraphs that are nice on the eyes to read but do not necessarily have an impact on what you currently believe as a person. It’s like a past relationship where you’ll be fascinated to discuss about but not necessarily wish for a second chance.
Then Be Happy!

March 10, 2016

Life & Love

Then be happy if the success that you are reaping is clean; you did not cheat for it or you did not step on anybody to achieve it.

Then be happy if the gadget, house, lifestyle and vehicles that you are displaying come from your own perseverance. I don’t care if you loaned; the important thing is, you are not corrupt; you did not take it illegally and you did not rob anybody.

Then be happy if the person that you are with, the one you are in love with and in love with you, too, is not stolen from anybody. Don’t flaunt your partner if you just get him/her through adultery or stealing.
When I Say,”I am a Christian”

March 8, 2016

Poems & Stories

I am so tired of wars. It upsets me to read about the atrocities among members of different religions. It breaks my heart to see powerful countries invading weaker countries. It all boils down to thinking that one is above everyone else.

This is a beautiful poem by Maya Angelou.
Summer Nights- Grease

March 2, 2016

That’s Entertainment

The movie that catapulted John Travolta and Olivia Newton-John to international stardom. Olivia was 29 when she made this film while John was 23 but their characters as Sandy and Danny are high school kids. Olivia was such a sweetheart while John was dashing!

Summer Nights presents two sides of the story: that of a love struck sweet girl who’s thrilled to tell about her encounter with her summer love and that of a cool high school boy who pretends that his date is just a summer fling.

The movie was released in 1978 yet we could still relate to present times how men and women view a relationship. For a man, a summer love could just be a summer love; one that will end as soon as school begins. For a woman, a summer love could be the beginning of a good romance.